Recently, I have seen a few articles about whether finding balance is a myth. Since one of the main purposes of this blog is to help working mothers find a balance between their work and home life, I thought I should weigh in on this topic.
Is finding balance a myth? If we look at what balance really means it is defined as a noun and a verb.
- an even distribution of weight enabling someone or something to remain upright and steady.
- stability of one’s mind or feelings.
- a condition in which different elements are equal or in the correct proportions.
- harmony of design and proportion.
- an apparatus for weighing, especially one with a central pivot, beam, and a pair of scales.
- a counteracting weight or force.
- the regulating device in a mechanical clock or watch.
- a predominating weight or amount; the majority.
- a figure representing the difference between credits and debits in an account; the amount of money held in an account.
- the difference between an amount due and an amount paid.
So in order to figure out if balance is a myth we need to define what type of balance we are talking about. For the purposes of this blog we are primarily refering to the first three from this list. The topic being weighed are work and family life.
Ultimately, we are striving for an equal proportion of these in order to achieve the 2nd defination. Likewise if we can achieve this equal districbution then we can also acheve defination 1 and “remain upright and steady.”
Now that we have defined what balance means the next question would logically be is it achieveable? This is a bit more difficult to pin down so here is my opinion.
Yes and no. I think balance is achievable for moments or periods of time but is not sustainable. Frankly, life would be pretty boring if it was.
As I said one of the main focuses of this blog is to “find” balance. So the aim here is the pursuit of balance. To me the achievement of balance is great,(at least in theory) but if we are already in balance what is there to write about?
When you have reached success you can teach about how you got there, but not one can really understand what it feels like to be there without achieving it for themselves.
So that is the key, in my view. Achieving balance is possible but we as living breathing changing creature based in nature. Nature is in a constant struggle to find equilibrium but stimuli enter the picture to throw that equilibrium out of wack and thus starts the process again.
Each stage in life is like this containing a new set of challenges, thrills, adventures and triumphs.
The best moments remembered are from these back and forth’s, the dips and valley where we learn about ourselves and adjust to out environment. Here is where we discover our true selves and help others walk where we have been.
Maintaining balance may be a myth but I don’t think that is really the point. Balance is not so much in the achieving it is in the finding. The journey to manage these two forces is what makes like worth living. It is in the journey to balance that matters not so much the destination.