Hello, I’m 40

turning 40
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Today I celebrate 40 years of life. The Big 4-0hh. I’m not really sure how I should be feeling right now. It is a exclamation point in life showing you have traveled through time a significant period. I feel a mix of emotions about it. I realize that at this point there are some areas of my life that I thought I would have accomplished more by now. Like having a career, being more financially set, and having a mastery of some sort of skill. I do kind of mourn for the time that has passed and what I might have accomplished. It’s hard to realize there might not be enough time life for me to do all the things I have ever wanted to do.

Learning to appreciate life

However, along with this there is a an appreciation. A happiness that I have only just started to discover in the past year. In the realization that this life doesn’t last forever.

Letting go of drama and distraction. I have spent many years pre-forty feeling a bit lost and misguided, looking for something to be angry about. Admittedly I was terribly ungrateful for the blessings that I had been given. I truly didn’t know myself and what I wanted so I was pretty consistently unhappy with everything.

Entering into my 40th year, I can honestly say I am truly happy. Blessed with wonderful children who teach me everyday what true joy and fun are. A fantastically supportive husband, who is honest, genuine and a truly good man. I have also reconnected with those in my family who value me and have let go of those that do not.

I have found a voice again, in writing this blog. (Thank you all for that.) And I have found a wonderful creative outlets. But most of all, I have stopped trying to please everyone.  Stopped trying to be someone I am not. I’m just me. Oh don’t worry I’m still totally awkward, but I have come to accept this about myself.

Better Late Than Never

9627154b3e9f4509e252b4004df5dda3Yes, this lesson came to me after 40 years, but it came to me. I have finally learned to accept myself for who I am. Finally realized that most of what I was trying to change was outside of my control. Learning to recognize I have some many blessing and gifts in my life now and it took me 40 years to see and appreciate them. I understand our time here, together, goes fast and we must love and appreciate what we have while we have it.

There is a little bit of melancholy inside happiness in turning 40. Lose of time, but the gaining of appreciation. The lose of youth but the gaining of knowledge. Less time for the future pursuits but the acceptance and understanding of our past struggles.  I guess turning 40 is really about finding balance. Ironic huh???

8 thoughts on “Hello, I’m 40

  1. I felt the same when I turned 40… like I hadn’t accomplished much as far as career, finances, etc. But now I can say I don’t mind when I wake up at 6 a.m. on a weekend, because I can get to the beach before everyone else. 🙂

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